We started PSMAPP (foster/adopt class) three weeks ago, there have been highs and lows.
This process has brought us so much closer as a couple, we have to have conversations about all the details of our lives. We have discussed our childhoods, our past relationships and everything in between. We felt like we had great communication before, but when you have to fill out stacks and stacks of paperwork about every moment of your life – you learn a lot about your partner and yourself.
We have had some people not react with the same enthusiasm as we are feeling, it is hard to hear. We have faith that they will get there and be amazing supports to us and our child. On the other end of the spectrum we have had amazing support and love.
During our process Arizona has decided that until the Supreme Court rules on Marriage we are single in terms of our child. Yes, this is unconstitutional, it is also a stab in the heart. Because of this we have had to do most of our paperwork over again, it is frustrating.
It is amazing the daily conversations that we have about our future, our child and just about everything. We are blessed to be adopting because it is allowing us to discuss every aspect of being parents, being spouses, being humans – and our feelings on all those. We are just amazingly blessed, we have such an amazing support system of love and we are overjoyed to bring a child into our home.